Taking a closer look at Jacqueline Laurita
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When they say ‘the best predictor of a person’s future behavior is their past behavior’, they couldn’t have been more right. At least, that’s the case where, Jacqueline Laurita, is concerned.
I, along with three-million other viewers, have tuned in to watch the, at times ghastly behavior, of The Real Housewives of New Jersey for four seasons now. And over the course of those four years, the one person who’s managed to keep my eyes-rolling, and my head-shaking throughout every season has been Jacqueline Laurita. I’ve watched in disbelief as this woman rode her moral-high-horse around my screen with her finger pointed at her cast-members, while her own self-destructive, and socially repelling behavior goes unnoticed, or at least unmentioned. In my book, Jacqueline is a complete phony. I find her behavior to be unconscientious, disloyal, erratic, and quite frankly, her actions have been the most repulsive of any housewife, of any franchise. It has been seen by viewers that in Jacqueline’s world – Turnabout is fair play – if it concerns her. But if one of her friends suggest they have been mistreated and they react with shock and indignation. Jacqueline rides in on her moral-high-horse shouting - fuggedaboutit. Apparently their problems make her uncomfortable.
In Season one
I don’t want to get stuck in a time warp, but I do think it’s important to take a step back and remind ourselves of who we are listening to. More importantly; who some of us are trusting. You may recall that, in season one, Caroline and Dina Manzo, located some embarrassing information about former cast-member, Danielle Staub’s, past in the form of a book. Which was subsequently made public on the show. When the finale rolled around and the book was revealed, Danielle set her sights on Dina. Apparently someone had already told Danielle that Dina was sharing the book around town; more specifically; at the salon that both Dina and Danielle frequented in Franklin Lakes. When Danielle confronted Dina about sharing the book, she lied and said she had never even touched the book. Then Caroline – in attempt to protect her sister Dina – lied and said she was the one who shared the book at the local salon. Caroline also took responsible for digging around to find some dirt on DS. *Clippity-clop, clippity-clop, clippity-clop, thubalup, thubalup* – Jacqueline rides in on her moral-high-horse – OH-HELL-NO! “That’s a lie. Dina is the one who shared the book with me,” she caterwauled. It became painfully obvious to the audience that the disloyal-Jackstabber had already gone to Danielle with what she knew, otherwise; why would she care if Caroline protected her sister? She wouldn’t, except for the fact that her own lies were beginning to unfold.
Excerpts taken from Jacqueline’s, Jun, 16, 2009, Bravo blog. “What made me freak out during the finale dinner was hearing Dina say that “Her hands never touched that book” and that she had “nothing to do with it,” and so on. THAT I knew to be a lie because she was the one that told me about the book, but would not reveal to me who her sources were“
In the same blog entry Jacqueline writes -
“My sister-in-laws never wanted anyone to know that they knew about the book, but I had a strong need to let Danielle know it was out there. I felt guilty knowing about it and I also had questions about it that I wanted answered, plus I wanted to give her a chance to explain it to me from her side. I protected my sister-in-laws and told Danielle that my husband heard about it from a source that he wouldn’t reveal.”
Jacqueline’s entire blog is filled with contradictions and phrases used in self-justification. Such as: ‘I felt ‘guilty’, ‘I wouldn’t normally’, ‘I’m not one to lie, but’, and ‘It’s not like me to…’ Self-justification comes into play when someone is faced with a moral dilemma, yet chooses to go against their beliefs. I am not pretending to be a psychologist. However, having a child with Asperger’s syndrome, I have done my share of reading in the field of cognitive function as well as social psychology, so I’ve had the opportunity to learn a few things about human behavior. Self-justification indicates that a person has encountered a state of Cognitive dissonance. For those of you who may not know, cognitive dissonance is the state someone enters when they’re holding two or more conflicting cognitions at the same time. In other words, their behavior is inconsistent with their beliefs, therefore, they begin to justify their behavior and deny any negative feedback. Dissonance may manifest itself in increased anxiety, shame, embarrassment, anger, disappointment and an array of other uncomfortable emotions. One example of cognitive dissonance in this case could be that Jacqueline is completely disgusted by liars, yet she chose to lie to get information from Danielle about the book. I know Jacqueline said she lied to protect her sister-in-laws, but when she called Dina a liar at the finale for trying to disassociate herself from the book, I think it’s safe to assume that was Jacqueline’s second lie. That we know of.
I would also suggest the theory of cognitive dissonance to explain Jacqueline’s behavior on the season four reunion show. It is psychologically uncomfortable for a person to hold two conflicting cognitions at the same time, so it’s not uncommon for that person to become irritable, or angry. I don’t know if you’ve noticed, but Jacqueline is engaged in behavior that far surpassed anything she’s accused her fellow cast-member, Teresa Giudice, of doing. I think Jacqueline’s behavior on part-one of the reunion show is reminiscent of someone who’s having a manic episode, and the same is true of her behavior on twitter for the past year. At the reunion show, I watched Jacqueline as she spewed venom at her ex-best-friend with a smile on her face. It was disturbing to watch the joy she felt as she was breaking down another human being. Jacqueline is a very angry person and her only goal is to hurt Teresa. I guess Jacqueline justifies her behavior with the fact that she isn’t hiding to revile Teresa.
There is simply NOWAY Jacqueline can ask viewers to believe that she is this incensed by the “disgusting behavior” (as she calls it) of, Teresa Giudice, when she is guilty of much worse. Are we to believe that Jacqueline is disgusted by someone embarrassing a family member on camera, when she branded both of her sister-in-laws liars on national television? Are we to believe she is disgusted by the thought of Teresa outing a stripper on TV, when she accused, Danielle Staub, of being a hooker on season two’s reunion show? She wasn’t referring to Danielle’s past, either. Are we to believe Jacqueline doesn’t believe in an eye-for-an-eye, when she has gone after her enemies, Danielle Staub, and, Teresa Giudice, with a vengeance? Are we really to believe anyone who’s action do not coincide with what they say? Good people don’t downgrade their morals to compete with their enemies.
Jacqueline is a self-righteous phony who has enjoyed sitting comfortably in her role as victim since season one. She has whined season after season about her cast-members lack of integrity and she’s made up her own rules as she goes. And I think it’s absolutely ridiculous how Jacqueline let’s her friends go on and on offending her, instead of putting her big-girl-bloomers on, like an adult, and talking to them about her feelings. She has no problem confronting her friends when she is sitting on that horse being the invalidator. It seems to me that Jacqueline likes to sit and stew in her misery – as the victim – waiting for the day she can snap, end her friendship, and blurt out everything her ‘ex-friend’ has done wrong throughout their friendship. “I listened to this shit everyday – referring to Teresa talking about her family – when I had more important stuff to do at home.” Jacqueline shrieked at the reunion show. Wow! What a victim Jacqueline is. I’m sorry, but as an adult, it was Jacqueline’s responsibility to let her friend, who is also the mother-of-four, and a busy business woman, know what she needed from their friendship. Not only was her ‘friend’ Teresa busy with life, it sounds like she was extremely upset, and concerned that her immoral sister-in-law – who had manipulated her way on to the show by way of Danielle – might air her private business for three-million viewers to see. As I see it, Teresa, like Caroline and Jacqueline, had complete control of what she wanted to publicize on the show before her untrustworthy sister-in-law entered the picture and took that away from her. Furthermore, I got the sense that Teresa didn’t want to be subjected to kissing-the-ass of her sister-in-law Melissa throughout an entire season of filming just so she could stay in her brothers good graces. It’s clear to me that Teresa’s brothers approval means a lot to her, despite what the talking-heads had to say. That said, It comes as no surprise that self-serving Jacqueline would misinterpret Teresa’s hurt for hate and side with a person she hardly knows over her friend of 10 years. I guess Jacqueline doesn’t know Melissa well enough to judge her for feeding, Danielle Staub, information to embarrass her friend on TV. Or, is it just all about Jacqueline, all the time. One of Jacqueline’s many complaints about Teresa is that she didn’t ask her enough questions concerning her son, who was recently diagnosed with Autism. Teresa’s counter-argument was that Jacqueline told her not to discuss the situation with her son, because she didn’t want anyone labeling him. Regardless of Teresa’s reasoning, I don’t blame Teresa for not asking more questions about Jacqueline’s life. I wouldn’t ask Jacqueline about herself either. I don’t think anyone could keep up with her rules long enough to carry on a conversation with her. And if you did manage to pull off a complete conversation, you would have no idea how many mental notes she kept of you screwing up during the conversation to throw in your face later.
I might also add that if Teresa had been Switzerland – like her pal Jacqueline – in the case of, Danielle Staub, she would probably be filming with Danielle today, instead of dealing with the assiduous finger-pointing and judgments of her hypocrite cast-mates. (Who would suffer then) Teresa was a good friend, who trusted her friends judgement about Danielle, someone she didn’t know. And she supported them 100 percent when they went after her. I think it’s ironic that Jacqueline is the only person who walked away from the situation with Danielle unscathed. Everyone paid, even her daughter; but Jacqueline walked away without a scratch. She wouldn’t even take responsibility for how her daughter turned out. Comical.
When I watched, The Real Housewives of New Jersey this season, I saw four women who undoubtedly had a meeting behind Teresa’s back to discuss some truths that Teresa shared in confidence with each of them, mixed with a whole lotta lies. And then I realized, they had turned each other against Teresa. Jacqueline said in part one of the reunion show that she had overheard Teresa saying that she hated her through the window of the RV on their camping trip. I don’t believe for a second that Jacqueline could have controlled herself at the camping parking-lot, or in the talking-head interviews, and I certainly don’t believe she kept that information to herself until now. Remember, she’s impulsive. It’s obvious that Melissa told Jacqueline about that so-called conversation after the season ended. My only question is this – why would Teresa’s family and friends go behind her back to discuss her to begin with? “HELLO, THEY’RE JEALOUS.” I believe Melissa and Kathy feared that Teresa would convince long-time friends, Caroline and Jacqueline, not to film with them. I also believe Jacqueline and Caroline feared the same could happen to them. I mean, they are rather boring on their own. So, for those four, the only logical conclusion was to get together an excogitate a plan to eliminate the one person from the show that they know fans tune in to see. Whether you tune in because you love Teresa, or because you love to hate her. Teresa Giudice is the STAR of the show!
Here is the link to Jacqueline’s blog I quoted above. I can’t seem to get wordpress to cooperate to link in txt.