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Soul Sensations
To think that I have lain outside to watch the golden sun swept hues of the days twilight hours which such loving memories that evoke the internal warmth that suffuses my limbs with such a sweet sense of fulfillment as I wait for the fiery sparks of the celestials to appear to me with their light. And with the failing grasp of days ethereal light, the heavens shine down upon me and their sublime reality sets my soul ablaze as I turn my thoughts toward you.
In those thoughts with the peace of the heavens overlooking I slumber in this mortal coil, yet in my sleep my soul awakens and goes in search of you. I soar into the velvet sky laden with the morning’s coming dew, searching high and low, seeking to and fro until I find that timeless angel whom I have loved countless lifetimes throughout eternity, my dear that soul is you.
As quaint and abstract as this may sound, your companionship and intimacy of sharing your thoughts with me drives me to my most wanton passionate thralls that do froth flame as from a rupturing volcano. Yet all these words I must say sound hollow next to the depth and breadth of how deep this feeling is, for with your merest touch you have weld my passion and love in such a way one cannot see where one begins and the other ends.
I question again that passionate love that burns in my chest a thousand times brighter and hotter than the sun. I ponder it long into the night until the break of day when the sun comes to sing its siren sound of slumber to my soul’s succor. So I wake in misery not finding you in my arms and gather my soul’s sweet recollections of you deep within my subconscious while my spirit drowns an eye in remorse for the pain caused to both my soul and flesh for their want of you.
Oh and how I want you and long to stare into the depths of your eyes and ponder the mysteries I might find in them so that in that union as our eyes search the other’s depths therein we might breech the river of sorrow and cross into the paradise of each other and fill our lungs with the breath of contented sighs as we pant skin to skin, inside and around each other as one. Legs entwined, bodies supine, arches in each others spine, kissing and loving and slowly caressing, grasping and holding, gasping and moaning until a new day is dawn and all our strength is gone. But until such a day as this comes to pass I breathily sigh in morose recumbence as I stare blankly ahead and daydream of you.
- Benefits
The Dr’s Appointment
So the other day I had to take my son to the Dr’s office for him to get his vaccinations and flu shot. I think he knew what was going down as he clung to my leg like velcro and looked up at me with those green eyes as if to say, “Don’t let them get me!”
When they got the shots ready I laid him on the table and as he started crying, I felt as if I had betrayed him even though I knew I was trying to protect him. I hurt because he hurt. Through his tears I could see him saying, “Et tu, Da-dee?” The sweet innocence of his cries birthed new compassions in my heart for him. After he had his shots the only way I could get him to calm down was to place him on my shoulder and sing Jesus loves you as I slowly rocked him and rubbed his back with a comforting hand. Yet even through his tears and sniffling sobs my little boy still managed to blow a kiss to the woman who just gave him those shots, the thought never occurring to him to be anything less than kind. Oh to return to the innocence we once had before we were taught to be angry at others, but instead love them with forgiveness.
I think that sometimes God vaccinates us through different trials to prepare us for what he knows is coming and it is hard for Him to watch us suffer yet after it is over He holds us in his arms and sings to us in a soft voice, “I’ll have no other, for I love you only, I’ll never forsake you or leave you alone. Here in my heart, you’ll always be, at rest in the precious love, I have for you.”
- Benefits
Yesterday’s Tragedy
Yesterday is a day I will never forget as it had been raining when I left out to run errands. I remember the big fat droplets hitting my head and running down my face into my eyes, making my hair slick and soaking my shirt immediately. That’s just coastal weather though. I normally run to my truck when it is like this and never think a thing about it but for some reason I chose to walk. As I walked I noticed a little boy that couldn’t have been more than four years old playing in a puddle in the street. I paused under a tree where it was a little dryer as I stood watching the little boy. One of those brief moments in time that caused me to remember that I use to do the same thing splashing every puddle I could find dry when I was his age. I wondered briefly if it was my place to shoo him off the busy street, and as I sat there in indecision I heard a car engine roaring as it accelerated down the road. Taking my eyes off the little boy I saw the car speeding down the lane the boy was in. I knew what was coming, but it was like a train wreck I couldn’t take my eyes off of as I heard the roar of the engine growing closer. Finally I managed to tear my eyes off the car and turned to look back at the boy, our eyes meeting for a brief instant and I saw something in his baby blue eyes that pulled at my heart, a split second before the boy was slammed under the tires of the car to the thunderous noise of tires sliding across the wet pavement in an attempt to stop. The boy never saw the car coming and never cried out as he lay limp bleeding out in the street. Why didn’t I make an attempt to save him? I watched numbly as the car sped off and the body of the boy lay twisted in unnatural angles and blood was everywhere. I never moved from the tree I was standing under. My fear immobilized me because I was afraid of offending someone for shooing a child to safety. I could have ran out from the safety of the tree and shoved the boy to safety but I didn’t to my horror. Looking back I keep asking myself over and over again why couldn’t I have moved???
Now before you go judging me too harshly, the above story is a fictitious one that I contrived in my head to make a point about the reality of what we do spiritually every day. Just as in the story above we sometime watch others remembering what it was like to be playing in sin splashing in the mud. It may be fun at the time but when the fun is over you look down and see the filth all over yourself. That little boy represents a lost soul needing to be saved and so many times we are frozen by what other people would think. We remain frozen in our indecision to share the love of God with someone. The lost soul like the little boy may never see the car coming to take his life, so it falls to you and me as believers to warn others and to give them a chance at choosing a life in God and eternal salvation. Yet our silence breeds missed opportunity to share the love of God.
Wherever you are at is your mission field. Be it your workplace, your kids’ sports game, and even church – that is you mission field. Give your story a happier ending than the fictitious one above.
- Benefits
Dragging the children in to push Teresa Giudice out
how did this happen?
Boy-oh-boy, it has been one hell of a wacky season for the cast of – Bravo’s hit Reality TV show, The Real Housewives of New Jersey. As crazy as this season was, and it was cray-cray, with all the Jackstabbing, and family drama. I think fans have seen more action since season four has ended. Just since part-one and part-two of the reunion show aired, the ladies have taken to Twitter, Blogs, and Tabloids to clean up the damage done to their image throughout this seasons taping. And of course, they’re also taking jabs at their enemies in the process. In one God-awful, self-serving interview, Melissa Gorga, tells US weekly that Zia Teresa Giudice, called her daughter Antonia ugly. Subsequently a shocked Teresa takes to her blog to confront the absurd allegations head-on and writes a message to her sweet niece letting her know that she thinks she is beautiful and that the inane accusation that she called her ugly is untrue. Further convincing the readers, and niece Antonia, Teresa posted photos of herself as a little-Gorga next to Antonia while citing their similarities. “Calling Antonia ugly would be like calling myself ugly, and I wouldn’t do that”, Teresa wrote. I’m paraphrasing a little, but the message is basically the same. Thank you Teresa! I’m going to go ahead and say that I believe Teresa 100 percent on this one. I actually feel that Melissa’s hate for her Sister-in-law surpasses the love that she feels for her own child. It is Melissa’s JOB, as a Mother, to protect her children from any and all things damaging to their self-esteem. As a mother of four, two of my own, and to Step-children; I know beyond a shadow of doubt that I would never repeat anything some jackass had to say hurtful against one of my children where they might catch wind of it. I am not calling Teresa a jackass, as I simple don’t believe one word that mommy-dearest had to say in her Interview to Us Weekly. Seemingly, Melissa has put the interest of her children on the back burner to go after Teresa with accusations that she knew would enrage fans. Filthy. Melissa. Filthy. It’s shocking to me that this trash-bag is more concerned with what strangers think of her past, than she is what children may say to her daughter in the present. “Hey, Antonia, I read that your Aunt Teresa thinks that you’re UGLY.” Good one Melissa! Let’s see how you blame this one on Teresa when you little doll comes home crying.
Next, I read an article on Radaronline that an “inside source” close to the Giudice family feels that Teresa should leave The Real Housewives of New Jersey; due to the toll the show is taking on her family. Specifically, her eleven year old, Gia Giudice, whom the source reports is being teased at school. Let’s get real, people. Whomever this “inside source” is, they have a self-motivating reason for reporting such nonsense. First of all, it’s creepy how they’re dragging the children into an all out war. Where have we seen that before ^^^^^? Hm. I don’t recall! And since when has any parent left their career to silence a bully in their child’s school? Good parents don’t eliminate their children’s problems, they teach their children how to deal with them. God forbid Gia was being teased for something no-one had any control of. What if, like so many children, she was being teased for having a disability!? My advice to Teresa would be to utilize the schools ‘Zero Tolerance for Bullying’ policy. If anything written in the Radaronline article is true, and Gia is being bullied, it should be handled through the school. Teresa should report the problem to the school officials. If that doesn’t help, she should go to the bully’s home, and speak to their parents. If that doesn’t end the problem, she should contact the school board. Under no circumstance should a parent who’s working to support her family, and pay-off eleven-million dollars in debt quit her job. It’s difficult for many to see the forest for the tree’s where the cast of The Real Housewives are concerned, but the truth of the matter is this show is these women’s job. I’ve read many comments on the internet stating that Teresa has her Fabellini, she has her cookbooks, etc. She should just leave the show. While it’s true that Teresa has embarked on many ventures outside of the show, she has no guarantee that fans will continue to support her if she leaves the show. Besides, Teresa IS the SHOW. We won’t have a show to watch if she leaves.
As you can see in both of the aforementioned circumstances, someone other than Teresa is responsible for posting information that could be harmful to a developing child’s self-esteem. And yet, Melissa and Anonymous would like us to believe Teresa is responsible for harming these children. The only thing I’ve witnessed from Teresa Giudice involving a child is the blog written to express how much she loves her niece and nephews. The tit-for-tat has gone way too far when Melissa’s grasping has turned in to insulting, repeating insults, and/or fabricating insults about her own child. I don’t care who she claims said it. It should have never came out of her mouth about her child. As far as the accusation about Gia being teased at school is concerned; I guess you could say I am more concerned with why that story is being exacerbated with anonymous interviews to Radaronline. Suppose Gia is being teased; what eleven year old hasn’t been teased at school? That being said, how many of us can relate to our own Mother repeating hurtful names that we have been called? Or even worse, what if our Mother print those hurtful words in a gossip-rag for millions of people to read? “So and so called my daughter ugly.” Said in my best Fran Drescher voice. “Now print that in Times New Roman, Bold, 16 pt. All caps, please. This is News Honey.” Unbelievable.
Keep your head up Teresa. You have a lot of support from your fans.
Taking a closer look at Jacqueline Laurita
“You walked in on your husband at his office when he had a girl on his desk. huh huh huh! Snort”
When they say ‘the best predictor of a person’s future behavior is their past behavior’, they couldn’t have been more right. At least, that’s the case where, Jacqueline Laurita, is concerned.
I, along with three-million other viewers, have tuned in to watch the, at times ghastly behavior, of The Real Housewives of New Jersey for four seasons now. And over the course of those four years, the one person who’s managed to keep my eyes-rolling, and my head-shaking throughout every season has been Jacqueline Laurita. I’ve watched in disbelief as this woman rode her moral-high-horse around my screen with her finger pointed at her cast-members, while her own self-destructive, and socially repelling behavior goes unnoticed, or at least unmentioned. In my book, Jacqueline is a complete phony. I find her behavior to be unconscientious, disloyal, erratic, and quite frankly, her actions have been the most repulsive of any housewife, of any franchise. It has been seen by viewers that in Jacqueline’s world – Turnabout is fair play – if it concerns her. But if one of her friends suggest they have been mistreated and they react with shock and indignation. Jacqueline rides in on her moral-high-horse shouting - fuggedaboutit. Apparently their problems make her uncomfortable.
Hey friend, why don’t you go ahead an tell me about being a prostitution whore. Your secrets are safe with me. Nobody else knows.
In Season one
I don’t want to get stuck in a time warp, but I do think it’s important to take a step back and remind ourselves of who we are listening to. More importantly; who some of us are trusting. You may recall that, in season one, Caroline and Dina Manzo, located some embarrassing information about former cast-member, Danielle Staub’s, past in the form of a book. Which was subsequently made public on the show. When the finale rolled around and the book was revealed, Danielle set her sights on Dina. Apparently someone had already told Danielle that Dina was sharing the book around town; more specifically; at the salon that both Dina and Danielle frequented in Franklin Lakes. When Danielle confronted Dina about sharing the book, she lied and said she had never even touched the book. Then Caroline – in attempt to protect her sister Dina – lied and said she was the one who shared the book at the local salon. Caroline also took responsible for digging around to find some dirt on DS. *Clippity-clop, clippity-clop, clippity-clop, thubalup, thubalup* – Jacqueline rides in on her moral-high-horse – OH-HELL-NO! “That’s a lie. Dina is the one who shared the book with me,” she caterwauled. It became painfully obvious to the audience that the disloyal-Jackstabber had already gone to Danielle with what she knew, otherwise; why would she care if Caroline protected her sister? She wouldn’t, except for the fact that her own lies were beginning to unfold.
Excerpts taken from Jacqueline’s, Jun, 16, 2009, Bravo blog. “What made me freak out during the finale dinner was hearing Dina say that “Her hands never touched that book” and that she had “nothing to do with it,” and so on. THAT I knew to be a lie because she was the one that told me about the book, but would not reveal to me who her sources were“
In the same blog entry Jacqueline writes -
“My sister-in-laws never wanted anyone to know that they knew about the book, but I had a strong need to let Danielle know it was out there. I felt guilty knowing about it and I also had questions about it that I wanted answered, plus I wanted to give her a chance to explain it to me from her side. I protected my sister-in-laws and told Danielle that my husband heard about it from a source that he wouldn’t reveal.”
Jacqueline’s entire blog is filled with contradictions and phrases used in self-justification. Such as: ‘I felt ‘guilty’, ‘I wouldn’t normally’, ‘I’m not one to lie, but’, and ‘It’s not like me to…’ Self-justification comes into play when someone is faced with a moral dilemma, yet chooses to go against their beliefs. I am not pretending to be a psychologist. However, having a child with Asperger’s syndrome, I have done my share of reading in the field of cognitive function as well as social psychology, so I’ve had the opportunity to learn a few things about human behavior. Self-justification indicates that a person has encountered a state of Cognitive dissonance. For those of you who may not know, cognitive dissonance is the state someone enters when they’re holding two or more conflicting cognitions at the same time. In other words, their behavior is inconsistent with their beliefs, therefore, they begin to justify their behavior and deny any negative feedback. Dissonance may manifest itself in increased anxiety, shame, embarrassment, anger, disappointment and an array of other uncomfortable emotions. One example of cognitive dissonance in this case could be that Jacqueline is completely disgusted by liars, yet she chose to lie to get information from Danielle about the book. I know Jacqueline said she lied to protect her sister-in-laws, but when she called Dina a liar at the finale for trying to disassociate herself from the book, I think it’s safe to assume that was Jacqueline’s second lie. That we know of.
“I swear on my child who is Autistic”
I would also suggest the theory of cognitive dissonance to explain Jacqueline’s behavior on the season four reunion show. It is psychologically uncomfortable for a person to hold two conflicting cognitions at the same time, so it’s not uncommon for that person to become irritable, or angry. I don’t know if you’ve noticed, but Jacqueline is engaged in behavior that far surpassed anything she’s accused her fellow cast-member, Teresa Giudice, of doing. I think Jacqueline’s behavior on part-one of the reunion show is reminiscent of someone who’s having a manic episode, and the same is true of her behavior on twitter for the past year. At the reunion show, I watched Jacqueline as she spewed venom at her ex-best-friend with a smile on her face. It was disturbing to watch the joy she felt as she was breaking down another human being. Jacqueline is a very angry person and her only goal is to hurt Teresa. I guess Jacqueline justifies her behavior with the fact that she isn’t hiding to revile Teresa.
Btw, this couldn’t be a photo of tweets that show perfect Jac involved in collecting info on someone’s past. Or polygraphing DS’s ex.
There is simply NOWAY Jacqueline can ask viewers to believe that she is this incensed by the “disgusting behavior” (as she calls it) of, Teresa Giudice, when she is guilty of much worse. Are we to believe that Jacqueline is disgusted by someone embarrassing a family member on camera, when she branded both of her sister-in-laws liars on national television? Are we to believe she is disgusted by the thought of Teresa outing a stripper on TV, when she accused, Danielle Staub, of being a hooker on season two’s reunion show? She wasn’t referring to Danielle’s past, either. Are we to believe Jacqueline doesn’t believe in an eye-for-an-eye, when she has gone after her enemies, Danielle Staub, and, Teresa Giudice, with a vengeance? Are we really to believe anyone who’s action do not coincide with what they say? Good people don’t downgrade their morals to compete with their enemies.
how did this happen?
Jacqueline is a self-righteous phony who has enjoyed sitting comfortably in her role as victim since season one. She has whined season after season about her cast-members lack of integrity and she’s made up her own rules as she goes. And I think it’s absolutely ridiculous how Jacqueline let’s her friends go on and on offending her, instead of putting her big-girl-bloomers on, like an adult, and talking to them about her feelings. She has no problem confronting her friends when she is sitting on that horse being the invalidator. It seems to me that Jacqueline likes to sit and stew in her misery – as the victim – waiting for the day she can snap, end her friendship, and blurt out everything her ‘ex-friend’ has done wrong throughout their friendship. “I listened to this shit everyday – referring to Teresa talking about her family – when I had more important stuff to do at home.” Jacqueline shrieked at the reunion show. Wow! What a victim Jacqueline is. I’m sorry, but as an adult, it was Jacqueline’s responsibility to let her friend, who is also the mother-of-four, and a busy business woman, know what she needed from their friendship. Not only was her ‘friend’ Teresa busy with life, it sounds like she was extremely upset, and concerned that her immoral sister-in-law – who had manipulated her way on to the show by way of Danielle – might air her private business for three-million viewers to see. As I see it, Teresa, like Caroline and Jacqueline, had complete control of what she wanted to publicize on the show before her untrustworthy sister-in-law entered the picture and took that away from her. Furthermore, I got the sense that Teresa didn’t want to be subjected to kissing-the-ass of her sister-in-law Melissa throughout an entire season of filming just so she could stay in her brothers good graces. It’s clear to me that Teresa’s brothers approval means a lot to her, despite what the talking-heads had to say. That said, It comes as no surprise that self-serving Jacqueline would misinterpret Teresa’s hurt for hate and side with a person she hardly knows over her friend of 10 years. I guess Jacqueline doesn’t know Melissa well enough to judge her for feeding, Danielle Staub, information to embarrass her friend on TV. Or, is it just all about Jacqueline, all the time. One of Jacqueline’s many complaints about Teresa is that she didn’t ask her enough questions concerning her son, who was recently diagnosed with Autism. Teresa’s counter-argument was that Jacqueline told her not to discuss the situation with her son, because she didn’t want anyone labeling him. Regardless of Teresa’s reasoning, I don’t blame Teresa for not asking more questions about Jacqueline’s life. I wouldn’t ask Jacqueline about herself either. I don’t think anyone could keep up with her rules long enough to carry on a conversation with her. And if you did manage to pull off a complete conversation, you would have no idea how many mental notes she kept of you screwing up during the conversation to throw in your face later.
I might also add that if Teresa had been Switzerland – like her pal Jacqueline – in the case of, Danielle Staub, she would probably be filming with Danielle today, instead of dealing with the assiduous finger-pointing and judgments of her hypocrite cast-mates. (Who would suffer then) Teresa was a good friend, who trusted her friends judgement about Danielle, someone she didn’t know. And she supported them 100 percent when they went after her. I think it’s ironic that Jacqueline is the only person who walked away from the situation with Danielle unscathed. Everyone paid, even her daughter; but Jacqueline walked away without a scratch. She wouldn’t even take responsibility for how her daughter turned out. Comical.
Why use gotta be a bitch. I dent do nuttin to nona use.
When I watched, The Real Housewives of New Jersey this season, I saw four women who undoubtedly had a meeting behind Teresa’s back to discuss some truths that Teresa shared in confidence with each of them, mixed with a whole lotta lies. And then I realized, they had turned each other against Teresa. Jacqueline said in part one of the reunion show that she had overheard Teresa saying that she hated her through the window of the RV on their camping trip. I don’t believe for a second that Jacqueline could have controlled herself at the camping parking-lot, or in the talking-head interviews, and I certainly don’t believe she kept that information to herself until now. Remember, she’s impulsive. It’s obvious that Melissa told Jacqueline about that so-called conversation after the season ended. My only question is this – why would Teresa’s family and friends go behind her back to discuss her to begin with? “HELLO, THEY’RE JEALOUS.” I believe Melissa and Kathy feared that Teresa would convince long-time friends, Caroline and Jacqueline, not to film with them. I also believe Jacqueline and Caroline feared the same could happen to them. I mean, they are rather boring on their own. So, for those four, the only logical conclusion was to get together an excogitate a plan to eliminate the one person from the show that they know fans tune in to see. Whether you tune in because you love Teresa, or because you love to hate her. Teresa Giudice is the STAR of the show!
Here is the link to Jacqueline’s blog I quoted above. I can’t seem to get wordpress to cooperate to link in txt.
http://www.bravotv.com/the-real-housewives-of-new-jersey/blogs/jacqueline-laurita/fuggetaboutit
Only Matt Martin
Matt Martin has finally made it to the big house time. All joking aside, I’d bet his gmail is full of google Alerts this week. After all, he is all the “rage” on Social media and I have the sneaking suspicion that he has google alerts set on himself. So, who is the man in the striped jumpsuit people are chat-chat-chattering about? Who is Matt Martin? For those of you who don’t remember, Matt Martin, circa 2010; allow me to refresh your memory.
Before Matt wormed his way into the lives of every overnight success Bravo’s network produced, he was merely a fan, just like you and me. He blogged and tweeted about The Real housewives, made snarky remarks about the melodramatics displayed on our television screens every week, and secretly he wanted to be invited to the Posche fashion show. Okay, maybe that wasn’t really a secret. If nothing else, Matt Martin, was motivated. Shortly after Matt started blogging and tweeting about the Real housewife franchise, he came up with the nifty idea of hashtagging tweets #RHOT (Real housewives of twitter), wherein like-minded fans could join the group by using the hashtag #Rhot to gain followers. Pretty clever idea… if you’re into cults. Oh, but It didn’t end there. Matt printed and sold T-shirts to his loyal following that read “Real housewives of Twitter“. You know you’ve successfully brainwashed your organization when you not only convince them to buy a T-shirt that says, Real housewives of twitter, but they actually take a photo while wearing it. Eeek! Needless to say, I never joined the, Matt Martin, cult of hashtagging and embarrassing wife beater wearing. To be completely honest, I’m not sure I would’ve been accepted into the fold if I had wanted to join. In any case, I was completely put-off by the idea of having someone set rules for me to tweet by, therefore; I was equally put off by the person who felt they were in a position to set said rules.
So what does all of this have to do with the buzz about, Matt Martin, today? Well, all of this #RHOT nonsense opened the door to the, Only Matt Martin Pr firm, where he allegedly used his charismatic, Eddie Haskellish, charms to steal from those who trusted him.
You can read the latest on, Matt Martin, at the link below.
Funny Dear Abby letters
Dear Abby Letters
Dear Abby,
I have never written to you before, but I really need your advice. I have suspected for some time now that my wife has been cheating on me.
The usual signs; phone rings but if I answer, the caller hangs up. My wife has been going out with ‘the girls’ a lot recently although when I ask their names she always says, just some friends from work, you don’t know them.
I try to stay awake and watch for her when she comes home, but I usually fall asleep.
Anyway, I have never broached the subject with my wife. I think deep down I just did not want to know the truth, but last night she went out again and I decided to finally check on her around midnight, I hid in the garage behind my golf clubs so I could get a good view of the whole street when she arrived home from a night out with “the girls.”
When she got out of the car she was buttoning up her blouse, which was open, and she took her panties out of her purse and slipped them on.
It was at that moment, crouching behind my golf clubs, that I noticed a hairline crack where the grip meets the graphite shaft on my Taylor Made 460 driver.
Is this something I can fix myself or should I take it back to the PGA Superstore?
Signed…
Concerned Golfer
Dear Abby
I suspected my husband had been fooling around, and when I confronted him with the evidence he denied everything and said it would never happen again.
Dear Abby
Our son writes that he is taking Judo. Why would a boy who was raised in a good Christian home turn against his own?
Dear Abby
…. My husband is making sexual advances toward my mother and she has asked me to speak to him because she doesn’t like it. How can I broach the subject without making him mad?
Dear Abby
… I caught my son having sex with a guy and I think he might be gay. Is there some way I can find out for sure?
Dear Abby
…I feel silly asking this. My husband wants to play a kinky game. He wants to, “break in” on me when i am sleeping. Before this, I am supposed to hide some cash, He then wants to bind and gag me, and make me tell him where the cash is, like a robbery i guess. I am pretty much game for anything but this is way kinky, or is it me? Margie.
Dear Abby
I’m concerned my son has a secret girlfriend. My 17 year old son has been very secretive with me lately, recently, he has started to refuse going to church with the family and tonight when I was going through his room I found a magazine with naked men in it. He obviously has a girlfriend he is hiding from me that brought that magazine into my home and I am afraid they’re having intercourse and I am greatly concerned that he is going to get her pregnant. What should I do?
P.s He is not homosexual, we have taught him from the bible and he has learned through our church that is not Gods plan.
Bethany
Most of these are from Yahoo’s question and Answers section. .
The Bachelor (It’s a TV show) Courtney Robertson is not so bad
pick me
Let me start off by saying, I don’t usually tune in for every episode of the Bachelor. I don’t know why, but watching the subjugation of 25 women doesn’t entertain me enough to dedicate myself to an entire season. And let’s face it, unless you belong to religious cult, there is nothing Real(ality) about a show were 25 women are living peacefully together while dating the same guy. That said, this season was different for me, this season provided me with some entertainment in the form of, Courtney Robertson. Not only did Courtney’s individualism and quick wit keep me tuning in, but the fact that she didn’t care. She was the Honey Badger of the Bachelor this season. Courtney Robertson doesn’t care what we think.
I wanna talk about a few comments that really stuck out for me this season.
Courtney Robertson – “Ben is not the only guy in the world. The spark is there or it’s not”
Emily O’Brien - whispers in question as if she were in a high rising terminal- “Did…uh she.. just say Ben’s.. not the only guy in the world.”
Yes, Emily, that’s exactly what she said.
Did the lights, camera and action give you amnesia? If you ask me, Ben Flajnik, better pick, Courtney Robertson; as she is the only woman in the house that hasn’t lost touch with Reality – as in Real life – reality. If Ben picks, Lindzi Cox, (Lord she’s so quiet, God only knows who she really is) he may lose her when she realizes he’s not the only man outside of the Bachelor-compound. Kasey B, Nicki, and Emily were all cornfuzzeled by Courtney’s recollection of men existing outside of the cult; it was like their reality had been replaced with the polygamist views taught on the Bachelor-compound and they could not recall what life was like before entering the land of fantasy-dates and sister wives. Or sister girlfriends as the case is here. At the mere mention of another mans existence, Kasey B’s eyes-bugged like, Joan Crawford’s, in Mommie Dearest, “More men, why? WHY?” “Because I’m damn crazy that’s why.” O.K, that line was actually Joan. That entire scene had me shaking-my-head for a good 5 minutes. I was like the real life bobble-head version of Pete ‘n Repeat “no-no-no-no-you-di’int”, repeat, “no-no-no-no-you did not.” Followed by me having a lengthy conversation with my TV. “Ben is dating 25 women, and you’re pissed when someone mentions him not being the only man in the world. I hope you ladies are able to shake off that cult mojo, because the only man in the world ain’t gonna pick you.” Apparently, Emily still hasn’t recovered from the bright lights and repeated Ben chants – “Ben is my life, Ben is my world, Ben is my life.” As she revealed at the tell all that she believes Courtney got in her way of a real connection with Ben. Please. It’s not Courtney’s fault that no one gave you a cc: of the compound rules. Did someone tell Emily that we don’t talk poorly about our sister-girlfriends on the compound? NOPE. Honey, if Ben would have had any kind of connection with you, he wouldn’t have shut you down and threatened you when you spoke poorly of his first-wife Courtney. And guess what? The Honey Badger doesn’t care.
At the Tell-All the women really surprised me. Oh, I know what you’re thinking… How could a bunch of insecure women who follow a man around begging for crumbs of his attention surprise me? That’s what you were thinking, Right? Well, I was surprised when Blakeley asked Courtney to apologize for the rude comments she made about her while taping the show. Being used to Blakeley’s passive aggressive eye-rolls and smirks on the show, it was refreshing to see her ask for an apology. But, it wouldn’t take long for Blakeley to return to her passive aggressive behaviors. When the show aired a clip of never-before-seen footage, several of the ladies were caught on camera mocking Blakeley and referring to her as a HO. Blakeley responded to the clip with a hair flip, and a pitiful eye-roll. So, what kind of message is Blakeley sending? “You can call me a ho, but don’t you dare call me a Ho and steal my man, *Eye-Roll*.” I was also a little surprised that one of the girls had tee-shirts made with a peace sign over Courtney’s face. O.K. I’m kidding. The shirts were ‘(Ø) Courtney’ shirts that had Team whatsherface under Courtney’s photo. The shirt didn’t actually say ‘Team whatsherface’; it had the name of a scorned woman beside of team, and placed directly under No-Courtney’s picture. But I don’t remember whatsherface’s name; so, that should give you some insight in to why she felt the need to make tee-shirts in the first place. The shirts should have read, I am jealous of memorable sister-girlfriends. Team Whatsherface.
Maybe you can help me here. I obviously missed something during this season of the Bachelor. In my opinion, calling Blakeley a hooker was the one and only comment I felt viewers should have been harsh on, Courtney Robertson, for saying. I watched Courtney rub her rose(s), and her date(s), in the faces of the other women. But isn’t that Reality? Like, real- reality? How many times have we heard of someone cheating were the mistress calls the wife or girlfriend to rub the affair in her face? Jealousy is ugly, but it’s also normal, and unlike the aforementioned, it should be expected on shows like the Bachelor. So, why are people shocked? Hellifiknow. While dating my husband, his ex called me numerous times, supposedly about their children, but she never passed up an opportunity to tell me something special she shared with my guy; Or she would blurt out some undesirable trait of his that she swore would ruin my life. Of course, I wasn’t the other women, but the two of them had shared something special; so it didn’t surprise me that she would want to hurt me, or hurt him by trying to scare me away. She was hurt. That was the REALITY of the situation.
There is no perfect, I-love-you-even-though-you’re-trying-to-steal-my-man women in reality. Unless, you’re in a religious cult, in which case, the other women are probably your sisters and cousins and you grew up arguing and forgiving anyway. I think it’s natural to have arguments with people you live with. Maybe not with your sisters and cousins over your brother, but hey, it’s a free-world.
There is so much more I could say about the display of ICK on shows like The Bachelor, but…
I will end by saying – There are rumors all over the Interwebs that, Ben Flajnik, proposed to, Courtney Robertson, on the finale of The Bachelor, but has since dumped her due to her behavior on the show. If that’s true, Ben is an imbecile. Living in a house with 24 other women who are fighting for the same mans attention isn’t going to bring out the best in anyone. Courtney was being herself, Dramatized x500 = for effect, I’m sure. To judge Courtney on a situation as unusual as sharing her man with a couple of dozen women is ridiculous.
If Courtney treats friends and family like she did the women on the show… Okay, he should dump her. But by all accounts, she is very kind to non-girlfriends of the guy she is dating. (see how that sounds) He should give her a chance. Unless, like most men on, The Bachelor, he went on the show to have some fantastic dates with 2 dozen women and now he’s just over it. We’ll see.
Update: Courtney Robertson on Cheaterville. Is this some guy she really dated, or some stalker creating problems. Seriously. Stalkers are known to post about people they don’t know on this website. Courtney was upfront with Ben about dating an actor.
Cheaterville Site
Will, Alexandra Harrelson, of the DR.Phil family commit to sobriety
@prettybug88 -- Alexandra Harrelson
While watching the Dr.Phil show Friday, I was both shocked and amazed to see a promo for the Dr.Phil family that will be airing, February, 2nd. If you are an avid follower of this family; like I am, you’ll remember Dr.Phil telling Alexandra that he would never speak to her again, unless, they were both sitting in the lobby of a rehab facility. Guess where Alexandra was sitting in the promo? That’s right boys and girls – In the lobby of a rehab facility. I hope I’m not jumping-the-gun by assuming Alexandra has committed herself to a life of sobriety.
Alex hasn’t tweeted since July, 7th
I’ve been following, Alexandra Harrelson, on twitter for quite sometime now, And the one matter that has irked me like nothing else could is the Alexandra fan club. The undeserved praise was cringe-worthy, and quite frankly begged the question – what is “their” drug of choice. As you may have noticed in blogs past; I am not an Alex-fan, but I am a fan of healthy living. No matter how anyone feels about Alexandra personally; her children need their mother, and I have waited a long time to see this young woman pull herself together. If I am being honest, words cannot describe how happy I am for Alex, and her children. Assuming she admits/commits to rehab(ilitation).
I can’t end without at least mentioning the woman that brings all of the drama
- Erin Stehl, the mother of Alexandra. I have never seen fit to blame Erin for her daughters destructive behavior(s). Alex is an adult and there comes a time in everyone’s life where they must start taking responsibility for their own actions. Besides, it’s not like Alex did not have the entire staff at the Dr.Phil show offering her help and support. Alex and Alex alone refused the help. That said, I could not believe Erin’s comments in the recent promo. I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again – Erin is extremely vain. Let me see if I can recall Erin’s exact words about seeing her daughter walking the street – “Alex was dirty. She was wearing men’s shoes, they look like she could have pulled them out of the trash.” C’mon Erin, your daughter has been walking the dangerous path of endless sorrow and regret for a long time now. Is her choice of clothing really what shocks you? Really? After Erin spews her concerns about Alexandra’s vagabond apparel, she finally mentions Alex sweating from withdrawals. Perhaps I am out of line for suggesting that Erin is vain. Maybe all mothers would concern themselves with what their 22 year old, homeless, drug addicted daughter is wearing? In any case, I did not write this blog to denounce Erin as a vain woman who seems more distraught over a pair of shoes than she does her daughter dying a slow death. I do, however, hope Erin gets some help before she inadvertently passes the ridiculous burden of “keeping up with the Joneses” off to the grandchildren.
Good luck in Rehab Alex!
How to avoid digital lash backs
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It's happened to everyone at least once, some more than others. I'm talking about the moment when you're in an elevated state of rage and the words out of your mouth are sharp enough to draw blood. You start to see red, and your hands shake uncontrollable; You might even have unpredictable bowel movement. The person or people responsible for enraging you are in sight and you're ready to put them on blast, …
